Caution: whining.

[chestnutcurls]

Someone in weddingplans asked a question about Sandals, and the responses are making me nervous. According to some, Sandals is really mediocre, and Jamaica is experiencing political unrest and it's not even safe to leave the resort. Funny how the government websites didn't have any Jamaica travel warnings when I was looking up passport information. I'm not sure whether to believe these people, but I hope they don't know what they're talking about, since the whole thing is already paid for. Sigh.

I bought Evan his Xbox yesterday, for his birthday/wedding present, and he's so excited. I had been excited about making him happy, but as I was paying for it I felt depressed because, as someone told me, "Oh, he'll never pay attention to you again." Of course that's overdramatic, but I figured out by the end of the day that I actually felt threatened by the Xbox. Isn't that ridiculous? I mean, he won't feel threatened when the next Harry Potter book comes out and I'm immersed in that for a week or so. I have issues.

Evan worked all weekend, so I was on my own for a frustrating Saturday of wedding plans. I drove all over the Wolfchase area in search of rehearsal dinner invitations, which only one place had in the right quantity. I made many, many phone calls from my parents' dining room table. I felt like I used to feel when I was writing a particularly boring research paper...lots of sitting and staring into space. Debra called several times asking what we should do for my bachelorette party, and I didn't have any satisfactory ideas, so there's no telling how that will go. It wasn't a very happy day. Yesterday was better, though. After church I stayed in the apartment all day, determined to have a day of rest as God intended. I napped and read and watched some Friends Season 7 and tidied up. I even put the Crock-Pot in its proper place, having decided that I should take out a few wedding presents now to make it less overwhelming later. Most of my appliances are white now. It looks nice. Anyway, I thought I would feel refreshed after yesterday, but I don't.

Two good things, though: We painted the bathroom, so painting time is over. And Evan insisted that I change my disposable contacts, since I was over a month overdue for changing them (on purpose, because I want them to last as long as possible), and the headache I'd had for a week disappeared. He explained what actually happens when you don't change your contacts, and it was scary. I might be less stingy with them from now on.

If you think of it, please pray for Evan to find a better job. He had that interview at Ryan's company, but the guy still hasn't called him back. It would be really nice to get to spend weekends with him. For those of you who are separated often and/or long-term from your spouses, I don't know how you do it.

Comments

[aardwolf.livejournal.com]

When I wore contacts, I eventually started using the ones that you wear for one day, then throw away. It was kind of pricey, and that helped me justify the Lasik surgery.

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Oh gosh. I have some kind of high end Toric lens and they're three-month. I can't imagine what dailies would be like. :P My prescription is -6 in both eyes so I don't have a whole lot of options.

Evan thinks I should get LASIK, too, but I'm just too scared. Not that I can afford it anyway.

[aardwolf.livejournal.com]

The best thing about the dailies was never having to clean contacts (and never having to stick "dirty" contacts in my eyes.) I'm glad I had the Lasik done, even if I had to sell my Microsoft stock to be able to afford it...

[zonneschijn.livejournal.com]

I wear Toric lenses too. I used to wear the ones you keep for a year, but here the disposables (each pair lasts one month) are a tad cheaper. Which is funny, because in the States the disposables were more expensive. Funnier still, the lenses I get here come from where? The States. :P

[jmcphers.livejournal.com]

It's not totally ridiculous of you to feel threatened by an XBox. There are guys out there who pay more attention to their video game consoles than their spouses, and you can't necessarily compare them to books because books just don't make the same kind of demand on your time.

That said, though, Evan doesn't strike me as the kind of guy who'd abandon you in favor of a console. (-:

[helenangel.livejournal.com]

Evan doesn't strike me as the kind of guy who'd abandon you in favor of a console.

Definitely not. Evan's smart- he knows a good thing (Brenda) when he sees it! =D

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Thank you for understanding. :) He used to spend almost all his time on video games when he was in college, so I guess I'm a little afraid of a relapse. He is good at reassuring me, though.

[canticles.livejournal.com]

Phillip is addicted to XBox.... I understand... *hugs*

It's not long now!!!!!!! WOW!!!!

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

So is there also a frenzy over Halo 2 in your house? :)

[canticles.livejournal.com]

YES! I told him we needed to curtail our spending and only buy necessities. And he said, but Halo 2 is coming out! Ha!

I can't say anything. I bought clothes this weekend. :P I guess he can have Halo 2. ;)

[anulyra.livejournal.com]

Rehersal dinner invitations? Hmm. I think I just bought nice looking stationary and wrote each bridesmaid and groomsman a letter. It gave info on the rehersal and also the wedding. Since we got a limo, the plan was for the groomsmen to drop their cars at the hall and the limo would pick them up and bring them to the church. That way, after the ceremony we'd take the limo to the hall, and all the cars were already waiting there. Stuff like that was explained in the letters. That was it. I didn't know if there was any sort of protocal. oops

Have you found any new info on Jamaica as a result of the comments? I mean, there have been problems there for YEARS, but I didn't think it was so bad that people stopped visiting. Maybe you can call the resort to ask questions and see if there is anything you ought to know to prepare.

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Well, these were fill-in-the-blank invitations and I just handwrote all the information. (I tried for about an hour to print them out, but it was impossible - the page sizes wouldn't match.)

I haven't, but I guess I should start looking. None of the sites said anything bad about it when I was looking for a passport. I wish we had gone to St. Lucia or something instead.

The comfortablity of separated fun

[helenangel.livejournal.com]

I think it is incredibly important for couples to have things they do outside of each other. Everyone needs time to themselves and everyone needs something they do by themselves to unwind. Personally, I think you should rejoice that he's getting an X-box because this will keep him at home. Some women have husbands whose separated activities cause them to go out of town, to bars, etc.

Couples who don't have separated activities (like x-box, etc.) are more likely to have marital problems and to divorce. He'll still pay attention to you, no doubt, and that little time alone he has with his x-box will make him appreciate you all the more. Guys tend to get burnt out on their wives/girlfriends fairly quickly if they don't get time to themselves. Trust me, the x-box is your friend. =)

Re: The comfortablity of separated fun

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

:) Well, I'm all for separate activities. You know I don't believe that couples should be clones or joined at the hip. I just don't want to be second best to a Halo soldier, but I don't think I need to worry about it. Besides, maybe now I can get scrapbooking done or something. :)

Re: The comfortablity of separated fun

[helenangel.livejournal.com]

That's true- you were the one warning me about that before I moved to Florida! =)

I just don't want to be second best to a Halo soldier

If that happens, simply don some combat gear and take the livingroom hostage. =D

Re: The comfortablity of separated fun

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

ROTFL

He would LOVE that. :)

[azngal324.livejournal.com]

From what I've heard, Sandals resorts are very nice. I wouldn't worry too much about politics. If something were to happen before your trip that would be dangerous, not only would the airlines probably shut down flights in and out of the country, the US government would issue an advisory.

[aardwolf.livejournal.com]

That's great as long as nothing happens while they're there...

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Lawson, I can always count on you to be optimistic... :P

[thetenthshadow.livejournal.com]

Aany guy who'd pass you up for a console would be insane, Brens :)

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

:)

[thetenthshadow.livejournal.com]

Oh, I love that icon. Cute kitty :D

[hestergray.livejournal.com]

Maybe you could play Xbox with him? I'm sure he won't abandon you. Every time he plays it, he'll just think to himself, "Wow, Brenda is the best wife ever for getting this for me!" :)

I'll pray for Evan's job situation. And also for you. *hugs*

Um, just out of curiosity, what scary things happen when you don't change your contacts?

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Well, AJ's comment below pretty much sums up the contacts thing. Your eyes don't get enough oxygen and it can mess up the blood flow, making your eyes bloodshot. After a while your vision might actually get worse!

Thanks for the prayers. :)

[zonneschijn.livejournal.com]

Oy, keeping your contacts up-to-date is very important! As they get older they get more protien deposits on them which limits the amount of oxyget your eyes get. Not good.

I'll be praying about a better job for Even and about Sandals. :) *big hugs*

[zonneschijn.livejournal.com]

*oxygen

[zonneschijn.livejournal.com]

*Evan! GAAAH I'm typo-queen today!

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Thank you AJ!

[tingilya.livejournal.com]

Rob and Jenny went to Jamaica for their honeymoon not two weeks ago. I just emailed Rob for his reaction to the country. I'll send you the email when I hear from him. :-)

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Wow, thank you! :) That's really nice of you.

[krikketgirl.livejournal.com]

I don't know whether it makes any difference or not, but our church had a Feast site in Jamaica and the people that went didn't have a lot of problems, although I had heard that it was a good idea to stay in your resort and not go wandering off alone.

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Okay, that is helpful to know. I wasn't really planning on leaving the resort anyway.

[brittuhknee.livejournal.com]

OMGee .. I relate completely! I feel threatened by Xbox too at times. A lot of times actually. Especially with Halo 2 coming out .. lol, I know I won't be seeing my boyfriend nearly as often until he gets his sufficient game time in. But, oh well I guess.. he did end up getting ME one for MY birthday which is awesome because I'm also pretty addicted to video games, certain ones at least, but I can't help but think it was also a gift for him.. lol.

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

LOL! Well, that was nice of him anyway.

Contacts and Lasik...

[dawn11476.livejournal.com]

I'm all for keeping current on your contacts. After working in the optometric industry for two years I've seen some nasty stuff. Including ulcers, where bacteria tries to eat through your cornea and causes ridiculous amounts of pain, and a nice little bug called acanthomoeba who feasts on the nastiness that collects on contact lenses that are cared for improperly. He makes you go blind.

I'm also a Lasik person...I had the surgery three weeks ago. After wearing glasses for 20 years (actually, 15 of those in toric lenses) I can see for the first time ever uncorrected. Previously, I couldn't even see the "big E" on the eye chart...just a grey blur. whoo hoo! I'd do it again in a second.

[ex-temporal111.livejournal.com]

I had been excited about making him happy, but as I was paying for it I felt depressed because, as someone told me, "Oh, he'll never pay attention to you again."

man, people really need to watch what they say, even if in jest! my hubby is a gamer, and i am glad that he gets to relax and play. guys need downtime, and when they get to have it and they see that you are glad for it, they feel so appreciated.

i will pray for evan's job situation. :)