pet peeves

[chestnutcurls]

Here's what's been on my mind lately. :)

Five Things I Can't Stand

1. People who make unearthly noises with their noses when they're congested. And sometimes when they're not congested. I mean that horrible snorting noise that sounds like they're sucking their own brains out. Is that really necessary? Couldn't they just blow their noses? Surely someone knows what I mean.

2. Having to vegetate in front of a computer for eight hours a day, remembering when my days were fun and active and I got to spend afternoons with my friends.

3. The world's standard of beauty. And the fact that whenever I profess my disdain for it, and point out provoking examples of it, my family either laughs at me or implies that I'm just bitter because I am not beautiful. Example: in the Princess Diaries movie, the FIRST THING they do to make the "ugly" girl "beautiful" is straighten her hair. Because one apparently cannot be beautiful with curly hair. This is only one example of the rampant anti-curly-hair bias in the media. My mother's response to my objections: "But you can't deny that she looked better." :P

4. The sick feeling I get in my stomach whenever I think about something that happened last winter, and realize that it may happen again before long.

5. The idea that women should be completely dependent on men and rely solely on them for everything. Yes, submission is good, but ignorance is bad! I worry about women who don't have a clue about paying bills or thinking for themselves. I'm independent and not married. Technically I'm still under the "headship" of my dad, but do I call him all the time so he can tell me what to do? What if I never get married? My dad's not going to be around forever; am I supposed to find some other man to "protect" me once he's gone? As my grandmother has always taught me: yes, submit, but be able to take care of yourself. And as I say: If a guy wants someone to dumbly do whatever he says, he should just get a dog.

Sorry for the negativity of this post. It helped to get that off my chest. :) I'll be more positive later.

Comments

Ha!

[ruthieroo.livejournal.com]

The Princess Diary thing ticked me off too...not because I have curly hair but because I WANT curly hair!:| Curly hair HAS to be more FUN than my sickinengly straight,fine stuff.:| Seriously.:)

[moredetails.livejournal.com]

1. Yes, I know exactly what you're talking about. Ick.

2. Well we're here, at least. :)

3. In some movies they curl the straight hair to make her more "beautiful." I think the idea is drastic change so they go from one extreme to another. They made her hair to be kind of untamed and untaken care of in Princess Diaries, so the contrast was shorter, straighter, etc. I think they only started with "curly and untamed" because "sleek and straight" is more reflective (or society perceives it to be) of a proper and sophisticated princess. In "A Walk to Remember" they curl her hair for the "beautiful" parts because they try to make her more feminine and maybe a little untamed. So--both ways can be extremely beautiful! I know that everyone always complains about their own hair (I am guilty) and wishes it to be the opposite of what it is, but I suppose we should just embrace it's goodness and be happy. Sorry, motivational hair speech there, and probably not what you wanted to hear.

4. I hope it's not impending doom! :)

5. You're doing great--I admire your healthy balance between respect for your dad and independence from other people. I think that's an excellent quality going into marriage because even though we are to submit to our husbands, we still need to be strong and capable women to maintain a tranquil home.

Re: Ha!

[moredetails.livejournal.com]

Don't take this weird, but I think you look beautiful with your straight hair. I definitely think God put us together with features and qualities that reflect little aspects of ourself. I don't know you, but I'm betting your more of a "straight hair girl" if there is such a thing. :) Especially since God made you that way.

(p.s. I'm not against curling or straightening hair, though. I have tried different things, for sure.)

amen girlfriend

[verseseven.livejournal.com]

I give a hearty amen to your fifth pep peeve. Geez! Why are women (or Christian women) be so dainty and ugh! This is a whole soapbox for me. It's not that I have a problem with submission, but why should I submit to people who have no reason to be over me but male ego?? Ugh, I don't kno what I'm saying....

[contradictions.livejournal.com]

My violin teacher's husband from my undergrad school had a really funny saying..."I may be the head of the household, but she is the neck!" And it was so true, and true of just about every successful relationship that I have witnessed. It's one of those things where the woman is really in charge, but she lets the man think he is. We just need that for our own self-esteem...but we know the truth ;o)

Re: Ha!

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

Yes, I agree. :) I think God really does reflect our personalities in little things like that. My coworkers were talking about that new Japanese hair-straightening procedure, and they asked if I would have straight hair if I could. I decided that I wouldn't. My curly hair is a part of me. I wouldn't feel like me with straight hair. :)

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

2. Yes, you are, and I'm so happy to know you guys! I think if I didn't have my journal, I'd go nuts here... :)

3. That's true. I didn't notice that in AWTR. Makeover movies- I could go off on a whole other tangent about that. :) I've finally learned to accept and sometimes love my hair- I just get mad when people imply that straight hair is the only beautiful hair. :P

4. Aaaaa! Impending doom! :)

5. Thanks! :)

Re: amen girlfriend

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

LOL...glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. :)

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

What a humble guy you are! Some woman is going to be very happy with you someday. :)

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[contradictions.livejournal.com]

LOL...yeah, I'm the most humble guy I know ;o)

Actually, you just reminded me, that was how the whole "me being single" conversation started last night (from my latest entry, that is). Gary's wife asked him a question, to which the answer SHOULD have been yes, but he was kinda stuttering, so I whispered, "YES!" to him. And it worked ;o) And then he said, "You'll make a good husband someday," to which I replied in that Friends Monica sort of way, "I KNOOOOW!" It was funny. Anyway, thanks for the compliment :o)

[grace20.livejournal.com]

Hooray for feminists!! Hahaha! I feel the same way...big time these days. I don't even want to get married at all. I just want to stay single and independent forever...

[moredetails.livejournal.com]

Yeah I was thinking of you when I read this post. :)

Spiritual leadership pet peeve

[greenhornet.livejournal.com]

i am heartily in favor of the whole biblical role thing, but I don't think that most people think it through. You guys obviously have been thinking about it, which really rocks.

As a Christian Guy with a healthy respect for my various sisters, this encourages me.