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The Wedding Ceremony
I'm really frightened by how much more defined my wedding ideas have become in the last year, but it's unavoidable when your best friend is planning a wedding and your other best friend isn't far behind. You're kind of forced to hash these things out, unless you're going to put earmuffs on while they're arguing over the guest list and sing "La la la, I can't hear you." Not that I've been tempted to do this.
1. How do you feel about the bride and groom seeing each other in wedding attire before the ceremony begins?
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grace20 said it best: "I want him to see me for the first time that day when I'm walking down the aisle so he can cry and all that." :) I still agree with this. I also like what everyone said about it building suspense to not see each other until the wedding. That's half the fun of these types of things.
2. How do you feel about the pastor giving a sermon during the ceremony?
I don't really feel that weddings are the place for evangelizing. However, I definitely want a worshipful wedding, with hymns fore and aft. :) And if my current pastor marries me, I know things will be said about the Church as the Bride of Christ and Christ as the Bridegroom, and I like that. Yeah...I still think this.
3. What are your thoughts on special music during the ceremony?
I think most of the special music should be done beforehand. It makes more sense, and it sets a mood. I want to have something during the ceremony, but probably only one song, as I would feel very silly just standing there while music played. I still agree, but I've realized recently that the problem with special music beforehand is that few people are there to hear it. Unless they're really early.
4. Do you think only the Wedding March should be played for the bride walking down the aisle, or do you have some other ideas about that?
Woo hoo! I get to talk about this! :) I am going to come down the aisle to "Praise to the Lord, the Almighty," one of my favorite hymns. I heard a story about a wedding where this was done, and the bride (and everyone else) was singing as she came down the aisle. I wouldn't do the singing thing, but it made such a beautiful picture in my mind. Yep, I still plan on doing this. I'm not a fan of the wedding march. I've also thought about "Holy, Holy, Holy," but a lot of Reformed brides use that for their processional, and I want to be different.
5. What features in a ceremony have you seen/heard of that were unique and a nice touch?
See story above. Friends of my friends are always getting married, so I hear stories all the time, but right now I'm drawing a blank. Oh, here's one. At Catholic weddings, the bride and groom always take communion, and I think that's neat. It emphasizes their places in the family of God as well as with each other. And I like the thing several of you have mentioned about the father of the bride giving a charge. I can't see my dad doing that, though. :)
6. What features in a ceremony have you seen/heard of that were tacky or inappropriate, in your opinion?
I don't know about the foot-washing thing. It is symbolic and touching, but there are practical issues that get in the way. Like the bride's pantyhose. :) Yeah...I still haven't seen any tacky wedding things.
7. What features of a traditional wedding ceremony could you do without unless it was really important to the other person?
I won't freak out if I don't have a ring bearer or flower girl. Currently there are no young children in my family, so unless I have nieces or nephews by then (or he does), I'll have to go without that. Same.
8. Do you feel strongly about having your wedding ceremony in a church, or would you be willing to have it somewhere else?
You're going to laugh. Here goes. My dream would be to get married in a meadow, in springtime, on a sunny day, with lots of flowers. And bunnies hopping around. No, I am not kidding. Of all my wedding dreams, this is the least feasible, so I don't expect it to happen. So, I would like to get married in my current church. We have a beautiful new sanctuary and it's just the right size for a wedding. I occasionally imagine myself coming down that aisle while I am at church, which is probably bad. Since Kathy has started planning her wedding, I have found a realistic compromise to my hippie-wedding dream- getting married at the Memphis Botanic Gardens. It would be so beautiful. However, I don't think my family would let me plan an outdoor wedding, because what do you do if it rains? And it would, because that's how things go with me.
The Wedding Reception
1. Do you want to have dancing at the reception?
Yes. I want people to have fun at my reception. This is still true. I want my reception to be a real party where everyone has a good time. I mean, come on, Brenda getting married, it'll be the miracle of the century and well worth partying about. :)
2. How do you feel about the bride and groom smashing cake all over each other during the cake cutting/eating portion?
Absolutely not. It's just immature and bad, and messes up the clothes. If the groom really wants to be silly, he can do what Royce did and pull the cake away. :) Still true.
3. How do you feel about serving Champagne for a toast at the reception?
I'd do it, but I would also have sparking juice available. I still agree, and also think the champagne should be really limited, because man, I bet that gets expensive.
4. How do you feel about having a Limo?
It would be fun, but it's not a necessity. (Maybepipermcgrupp would be willing to drive one for me.) :) Still agree...and where is Jon these days? I miss him.
5. What kind of music would you like at the reception, if any?
I would like to hire the Cordova Jazz Band. Barring that, I would like Adam Sandler to come to the reception as his Wedding Singer character. :) I still think jazz/swing music would be really fun, but I'd be perfectly happy with a DJ, or skipping that part altogether and just burning some special CDs and slapping them in the sound system. I would have a mix of dancey songs and songs that were meaningful to me and my husband.
The Honeymoon
1. What are some ideas you have on where you'd like to have a honeymoon?
Hawaii. Or New Zealand, where we would take a tour of Lord of the Rings sites (because I wouldn't marry a man who wouldn't be interested in something like that). :) But anywhere pretty would be fine. I still think it would be great to take a special trip for my honeymoon, but I guess it's more realistic to go somewhere closer. Anywhere with a beach would be good. Also, Niagara Falls seems like a romantic sort of place. :)
2. How long would you like your honeymoon to last?
A week. Yep. I also like the idea of having a sort of vacation-at-home for another week - great idea, Rachael. That makes for an easier transition into your new life.
3. When would you like to leave for your Honeymoon?
I would stay in a local hotel for the wedding night and leave for the honeymoon the next day. There is no way I'm getting on a plane before I'm married in the Biblical sense. ;) Yes, this is still true. Plus it's a lot less stressful.
Miscellaneous
1. What colors have you considered for your wedding (if any)?
I really don't know because I have to pick something that looks good on Kathy, Em, and my sister. I really like yellow, but I'm the only one of us who can wear yellow. But I also like the sage green that Jessica mentioned. That might be nice. Yeah, I have since decided on a sage green. I've seen pictures of sage-green weddings and it looks very nice. It would also be great for the garden wedding. Of course, I may have changed my mind by then.
2. How formally would you like the wedding party and guests to dress?
About the same as we did at MaryElaine and Royce's wedding. I wouldn't want black tie or anything really formal. Yep.
3. What time of year would you like your wedding?
Springtime (April, preferably) would be nice. I also have a thing about July 7th, but it would be so hot. Yeah, April has become my preferred month. The weather is perfect and the wedding-season rush hasn't started yet. I wouldn't stretch my engagement just to get married then, though. Let's see, I'd have to get engaged in October or November. "I'm sorry, your proposal window has passed, please wait another year." :P
4. What time of day would you like your wedding?
1 or 2 in the afternoon. How about 2:30? Is there some kind of law about getting married on the hour? I like 2:30. :)
5. What size of wedding would you prefer?
My wedding party will be Kathy, Em, and my sister. I don't really believe in twelve-bridesmaid weddings. But there are a million people I would want to invite. Now I can think of a couple of other people who I might like to be in my wedding, so I'm willing to stretch a little. Plus, I might have to add people to accomodate for extra groomsmen. It's such a complicated procedure. But if I start planning some Princess Di wedding with ten bridesmaids, someone shake me.
The Wedding Ceremony
I'm really frightened by how much more defined my wedding ideas have become in the last year, but it's unavoidable when your best friend is planning a wedding and your other best friend isn't far behind. You're kind of forced to hash these things out, unless you're going to put earmuffs on while they're arguing over the guest list and sing "La la la, I can't hear you." Not that I've been tempted to do this.
1. How do you feel about the bride and groom seeing each other in wedding attire before the ceremony begins?
I think
grace20 said it best: "I want him to see me for the first time that day when I'm walking down the aisle so he can cry and all that." :) I still agree with this. I also like what everyone said about it building suspense to not see each other until the wedding. That's half the fun of these types of things.2. How do you feel about the pastor giving a sermon during the ceremony?
I don't really feel that weddings are the place for evangelizing. However, I definitely want a worshipful wedding, with hymns fore and aft. :) And if my current pastor marries me, I know things will be said about the Church as the Bride of Christ and Christ as the Bridegroom, and I like that. Yeah...I still think this.
3. What are your thoughts on special music during the ceremony?
I think most of the special music should be done beforehand. It makes more sense, and it sets a mood. I want to have something during the ceremony, but probably only one song, as I would feel very silly just standing there while music played. I still agree, but I've realized recently that the problem with special music beforehand is that few people are there to hear it. Unless they're really early.
4. Do you think only the Wedding March should be played for the bride walking down the aisle, or do you have some other ideas about that?
Woo hoo! I get to talk about this! :) I am going to come down the aisle to "Praise to the Lord, the Almighty," one of my favorite hymns. I heard a story about a wedding where this was done, and the bride (and everyone else) was singing as she came down the aisle. I wouldn't do the singing thing, but it made such a beautiful picture in my mind. Yep, I still plan on doing this. I'm not a fan of the wedding march. I've also thought about "Holy, Holy, Holy," but a lot of Reformed brides use that for their processional, and I want to be different.
5. What features in a ceremony have you seen/heard of that were unique and a nice touch?
See story above. Friends of my friends are always getting married, so I hear stories all the time, but right now I'm drawing a blank. Oh, here's one. At Catholic weddings, the bride and groom always take communion, and I think that's neat. It emphasizes their places in the family of God as well as with each other. And I like the thing several of you have mentioned about the father of the bride giving a charge. I can't see my dad doing that, though. :)
6. What features in a ceremony have you seen/heard of that were tacky or inappropriate, in your opinion?
I don't know about the foot-washing thing. It is symbolic and touching, but there are practical issues that get in the way. Like the bride's pantyhose. :) Yeah...I still haven't seen any tacky wedding things.
7. What features of a traditional wedding ceremony could you do without unless it was really important to the other person?
I won't freak out if I don't have a ring bearer or flower girl. Currently there are no young children in my family, so unless I have nieces or nephews by then (or he does), I'll have to go without that. Same.
8. Do you feel strongly about having your wedding ceremony in a church, or would you be willing to have it somewhere else?
You're going to laugh. Here goes. My dream would be to get married in a meadow, in springtime, on a sunny day, with lots of flowers. And bunnies hopping around. No, I am not kidding. Of all my wedding dreams, this is the least feasible, so I don't expect it to happen. So, I would like to get married in my current church. We have a beautiful new sanctuary and it's just the right size for a wedding. I occasionally imagine myself coming down that aisle while I am at church, which is probably bad. Since Kathy has started planning her wedding, I have found a realistic compromise to my hippie-wedding dream- getting married at the Memphis Botanic Gardens. It would be so beautiful. However, I don't think my family would let me plan an outdoor wedding, because what do you do if it rains? And it would, because that's how things go with me.
The Wedding Reception
1. Do you want to have dancing at the reception?
Yes. I want people to have fun at my reception. This is still true. I want my reception to be a real party where everyone has a good time. I mean, come on, Brenda getting married, it'll be the miracle of the century and well worth partying about. :)
2. How do you feel about the bride and groom smashing cake all over each other during the cake cutting/eating portion?
Absolutely not. It's just immature and bad, and messes up the clothes. If the groom really wants to be silly, he can do what Royce did and pull the cake away. :) Still true.
3. How do you feel about serving Champagne for a toast at the reception?
I'd do it, but I would also have sparking juice available. I still agree, and also think the champagne should be really limited, because man, I bet that gets expensive.
4. How do you feel about having a Limo?
It would be fun, but it's not a necessity. (Maybe
pipermcgrupp would be willing to drive one for me.) :) Still agree...and where is Jon these days? I miss him.5. What kind of music would you like at the reception, if any?
I would like to hire the Cordova Jazz Band. Barring that, I would like Adam Sandler to come to the reception as his Wedding Singer character. :) I still think jazz/swing music would be really fun, but I'd be perfectly happy with a DJ, or skipping that part altogether and just burning some special CDs and slapping them in the sound system. I would have a mix of dancey songs and songs that were meaningful to me and my husband.
The Honeymoon
1. What are some ideas you have on where you'd like to have a honeymoon?
Hawaii. Or New Zealand, where we would take a tour of Lord of the Rings sites (because I wouldn't marry a man who wouldn't be interested in something like that). :) But anywhere pretty would be fine. I still think it would be great to take a special trip for my honeymoon, but I guess it's more realistic to go somewhere closer. Anywhere with a beach would be good. Also, Niagara Falls seems like a romantic sort of place. :)
2. How long would you like your honeymoon to last?
A week. Yep. I also like the idea of having a sort of vacation-at-home for another week - great idea, Rachael. That makes for an easier transition into your new life.
3. When would you like to leave for your Honeymoon?
I would stay in a local hotel for the wedding night and leave for the honeymoon the next day. There is no way I'm getting on a plane before I'm married in the Biblical sense. ;) Yes, this is still true. Plus it's a lot less stressful.
Miscellaneous
1. What colors have you considered for your wedding (if any)?
I really don't know because I have to pick something that looks good on Kathy, Em, and my sister. I really like yellow, but I'm the only one of us who can wear yellow. But I also like the sage green that Jessica mentioned. That might be nice. Yeah, I have since decided on a sage green. I've seen pictures of sage-green weddings and it looks very nice. It would also be great for the garden wedding. Of course, I may have changed my mind by then.
2. How formally would you like the wedding party and guests to dress?
About the same as we did at MaryElaine and Royce's wedding. I wouldn't want black tie or anything really formal. Yep.
3. What time of year would you like your wedding?
Springtime (April, preferably) would be nice. I also have a thing about July 7th, but it would be so hot. Yeah, April has become my preferred month. The weather is perfect and the wedding-season rush hasn't started yet. I wouldn't stretch my engagement just to get married then, though. Let's see, I'd have to get engaged in October or November. "I'm sorry, your proposal window has passed, please wait another year." :P
4. What time of day would you like your wedding?
1 or 2 in the afternoon. How about 2:30? Is there some kind of law about getting married on the hour? I like 2:30. :)
5. What size of wedding would you prefer?
My wedding party will be Kathy, Em, and my sister. I don't really believe in twelve-bridesmaid weddings. But there are a million people I would want to invite. Now I can think of a couple of other people who I might like to be in my wedding, so I'm willing to stretch a little. Plus, I might have to add people to accomodate for extra groomsmen. It's such a complicated procedure. But if I start planning some Princess Di wedding with ten bridesmaids, someone shake me.
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Date: 2003-08-19 12:23 pm (UTC)that's all from the random computer geek comment gallery for now :)
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Date: 2003-08-19 01:04 pm (UTC)lol, well with budget cuts they probably can't afford any good programmers right now :)
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Date: 2003-08-19 12:27 pm (UTC)Oh, the shirt and jeans song was "Can You Feel the Love Tonight?"
I need to do that wedding survey tonight, definitely...
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Date: 2003-08-19 12:44 pm (UTC)Yeah, do the survey! I'd like to see your answers.
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Date: 2003-08-19 12:28 pm (UTC)1 or 2 in the afternoon. How about 2:30? Is there some kind of law about getting married on the hour? I like 2:30. :)
Apparently it's supposed to be good luck to get married as the big hand is going up the clock. Just somethign i've heard.
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Date: 2003-08-19 12:45 pm (UTC)Yay for breaking tradition. :)
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Date: 2003-08-24 10:33 pm (UTC)But why do you say your marriage would be a miracle?