leaving room
Jun. 19th, 2002 01:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
chestnutcurlsLately I've been trying to be more discerning with the things in my life. This may not make much sense, but I will try to explain.
I have always tried to find something good in the people and things around me. If someone had a hideous outfit on, but their hair looked cute, I would tell them their hair looked cute. If someone I cared about did something that wasn't awful, I lavished them with praise. I think I believed that it was un-Christian to be negative.
I still look for things to compliment the people in my life about. I try to be encouraging, because I want them to feel good about themselves, and to feel loved. I get very excited about everything. If they do something for me, I want to make sure they know how much I appreciate it. The problem is, I guess I expect other people to react the same way when I try to do something good.
One of my best friends pointed this out to me last week. I was upset because I had done something fun for him, and he didn't seem excited about it. He said, "This is good, but it's not the best ever. If I get all excited now, what am I going to say later when you do the best thing ever?" To get it into my terms, he explained that it was like figure skating. The first girl to skate always gets a lower score, no matter how good she is, because the judges have to leave room for someone to be even better. And I never leave room.
So ever since, I've been pondering this. Am I wrong? Should I be holding back, and leaving room, in my life? I just don't know. And I'm not sure how this applies Biblically.
I have always tried to find something good in the people and things around me. If someone had a hideous outfit on, but their hair looked cute, I would tell them their hair looked cute. If someone I cared about did something that wasn't awful, I lavished them with praise. I think I believed that it was un-Christian to be negative.
I still look for things to compliment the people in my life about. I try to be encouraging, because I want them to feel good about themselves, and to feel loved. I get very excited about everything. If they do something for me, I want to make sure they know how much I appreciate it. The problem is, I guess I expect other people to react the same way when I try to do something good.
One of my best friends pointed this out to me last week. I was upset because I had done something fun for him, and he didn't seem excited about it. He said, "This is good, but it's not the best ever. If I get all excited now, what am I going to say later when you do the best thing ever?" To get it into my terms, he explained that it was like figure skating. The first girl to skate always gets a lower score, no matter how good she is, because the judges have to leave room for someone to be even better. And I never leave room.
So ever since, I've been pondering this. Am I wrong? Should I be holding back, and leaving room, in my life? I just don't know. And I'm not sure how this applies Biblically.
