personality blather

[chestnutcurls]

Sorry to post again so soon, but I took that enneagram test and was pretty impressed with the results. I'm a Two, though I also scored high in Four and Six.



The Helper (the Two)
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people's needs.

How to Get Along with Me

• Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.


• Share fun times with me.


• Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.


• Let me know that I am important and special to you.


• Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.

In Intimate Relationships

• Reassure me that I am interesting to you.


• Reassure me often that you love me.


• Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.

What I Like About Being a Two

• being able to relate easily to people and to make friends


• knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better


• being generous, caring, and warm


• being sensitive to and perceptive about others' feelings


• being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor

What's Hard About Being a Two

• not being able to say no


• having low self-esteem


• feeling drained from overdoing for others


• not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish


• criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should


• being upset that others don't tune in to me as much as I tune in to them


• working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings

Twos as Children Often

• are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism


• try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding


• are outwardly compliant


• are popular or try to be popular with other children


• act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention


• are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Twos)

Twos as Parents

• are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren't)


• are often playful with their children


• wonder: "Am I doing it right?" "Am I giving enough?" "Have I caused irreparable damage?"


• can become fiercely protective