from the mountains to the prairies
Sep. 11th, 2003 03:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
chestnutcurlsNow is the time on Sprockets when Brenda posts.
I'm only going to say one thing about it being 9/11: I was very touched by the children reading names at the memorial this morning. One of the girls, who was interviewed on the Today show this morning, has organized a sort of art therapy session for all the children of the victims. I thought that was a really nice idea.
Oh, and since a lot of you are new to the friends list in the past year, here's my where-I-was story if you're interested.
Last night I was home alone, practicing my flute, when a strange man came to the door. I didn't answer. After a couple of knocks he went away, but I was freaked out. I called Evan and talked to him until I felt better. Then Jessica called, and I talked to her until my phone died. It was a good wake-up call to make me wonder what I'm thinking, planning to live alone again. It's weird; I never felt afraid in the apartment before Kathy moved in, but ever since that guy hit my car, I'm incredibly nervous being there alone. There are many things I don't want to be alone for: war, bad storms, roach discoveries, strange phone calls/people at the door, the aftermath of scary movies. What am I going to do once Kathy's gone? Cling to the cat and pray?
The good thing is, Evan really wants to move into my apartment complex. Ideally the apartment across from mine, which has been vacant since March. This can't happen until he has a job, which is all the more motivation for him to get one. We're having a good time planning our Friends-like existence: I'll cook for him occasionally, he'll let me watch his cable and use his DSL whenever I want. :) Anyway, the chances of him getting that apartment are slim, but I think he could get into the complex. Then the alone point would be moot because I'd have a neighbor friend for protection and companionship. So we'll see what happens there.
Quoted by Michaela, written by Christian singer/songwriter Tara Leigh Cobble, who is awesome.
Friendationship: (n) frin-DAY-shun-ship
A male-female relationship, which has exceeded the normal level of friendship, but has not yet acquired official relationship status; a phenomenon that is prominent in the Post-Joshua-Harris era; often occurs pre-DTR; i.e. Greg doesn’t want to date Sally, because he’s not sure if she’s The One, but it’s obvious to everyone that they are in a friendationship. Synonym: Just Friends; Antonym: Friends with Benefits.
I invented this word a few years ago, because I sensed a great need for it. My friends and I have used it frequently in everyday conversation, and they have recently encouraged me to release it to the world. It hasn’t been entered into the dictionary yet, but I figure that if enough of us start using it, those days can’t be too far off. As a matter of fact, “bling-bling” was just added to the Oxford English Dictionary. I’m not even kidding. I heard that they credited some rapper with it. So, let’s just all operate on the safe side here and make sure you credit me when you use the word friendationship. Then I’ll be rich enough to have some bling-bling of my own someday.
Friendationships are a confusing thing. First of all, I haven’t come up with an official word for what it’s called when you hang out with the person you’re in a friendationship with (is it a frate, an abbreviation of friend-date?). Furthermore, what do you call that person? Until now, I’ve just referred to the person as your friendationship (instead of your girlfriend, your boyfriend, or the person you are always with but won’t admit that you like), but I’m not sure if I like that either. If you think of anything better, let me know.
I’m not going to go into any details about my personal experiences with friendationships; but I will tell you that I think they are the best new trend in dating (or non-dating, whichever you prefer). And as a matter of fact, the best relationships that I’ve had have been friendationships. I fully endorse them. They’re also fun to witness:
Two friends of mine, whom I will call Adam and Eve, have just recently admitted to each other that their friendship is, in fact, a friendationship. I’ve been telling Eve this for six months. Everyone else knew it, too... Adam just finally admitted it to himself. I feel so relieved. So maybe they will get married someday. Or maybe it will all end weirdly, and none of our friends will feel comfortable hanging out with each other anymore. But that’s the beauty of the friendationship: total uncertainty, total lack of commitment.
To find out if you are currently in a friendationship, take this simple quiz:
1. Have you ever read I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris?*
2. After reading the book, did you burn it?
*disclaimer: Joshua Harris is actually a friend of mine, and I have personally read everything he has ever written, including his private journals, which he keeps in his hall closet. Josh, I mean you no harm, and I think you and Shannon are amazing. Have a nice day, and please don’t hate me- this is all in good fun. (P.S. Can you make the word friendationship hugely popular?)
I'm only going to say one thing about it being 9/11: I was very touched by the children reading names at the memorial this morning. One of the girls, who was interviewed on the Today show this morning, has organized a sort of art therapy session for all the children of the victims. I thought that was a really nice idea.
Oh, and since a lot of you are new to the friends list in the past year, here's my where-I-was story if you're interested.
Last night I was home alone, practicing my flute, when a strange man came to the door. I didn't answer. After a couple of knocks he went away, but I was freaked out. I called Evan and talked to him until I felt better. Then Jessica called, and I talked to her until my phone died. It was a good wake-up call to make me wonder what I'm thinking, planning to live alone again. It's weird; I never felt afraid in the apartment before Kathy moved in, but ever since that guy hit my car, I'm incredibly nervous being there alone. There are many things I don't want to be alone for: war, bad storms, roach discoveries, strange phone calls/people at the door, the aftermath of scary movies. What am I going to do once Kathy's gone? Cling to the cat and pray?
The good thing is, Evan really wants to move into my apartment complex. Ideally the apartment across from mine, which has been vacant since March. This can't happen until he has a job, which is all the more motivation for him to get one. We're having a good time planning our Friends-like existence: I'll cook for him occasionally, he'll let me watch his cable and use his DSL whenever I want. :) Anyway, the chances of him getting that apartment are slim, but I think he could get into the complex. Then the alone point would be moot because I'd have a neighbor friend for protection and companionship. So we'll see what happens there.
Quoted by Michaela, written by Christian singer/songwriter Tara Leigh Cobble, who is awesome.
Friendationship: (n) frin-DAY-shun-ship
A male-female relationship, which has exceeded the normal level of friendship, but has not yet acquired official relationship status; a phenomenon that is prominent in the Post-Joshua-Harris era; often occurs pre-DTR; i.e. Greg doesn’t want to date Sally, because he’s not sure if she’s The One, but it’s obvious to everyone that they are in a friendationship. Synonym: Just Friends; Antonym: Friends with Benefits.
I invented this word a few years ago, because I sensed a great need for it. My friends and I have used it frequently in everyday conversation, and they have recently encouraged me to release it to the world. It hasn’t been entered into the dictionary yet, but I figure that if enough of us start using it, those days can’t be too far off. As a matter of fact, “bling-bling” was just added to the Oxford English Dictionary. I’m not even kidding. I heard that they credited some rapper with it. So, let’s just all operate on the safe side here and make sure you credit me when you use the word friendationship. Then I’ll be rich enough to have some bling-bling of my own someday.
Friendationships are a confusing thing. First of all, I haven’t come up with an official word for what it’s called when you hang out with the person you’re in a friendationship with (is it a frate, an abbreviation of friend-date?). Furthermore, what do you call that person? Until now, I’ve just referred to the person as your friendationship (instead of your girlfriend, your boyfriend, or the person you are always with but won’t admit that you like), but I’m not sure if I like that either. If you think of anything better, let me know.
I’m not going to go into any details about my personal experiences with friendationships; but I will tell you that I think they are the best new trend in dating (or non-dating, whichever you prefer). And as a matter of fact, the best relationships that I’ve had have been friendationships. I fully endorse them. They’re also fun to witness:
Two friends of mine, whom I will call Adam and Eve, have just recently admitted to each other that their friendship is, in fact, a friendationship. I’ve been telling Eve this for six months. Everyone else knew it, too... Adam just finally admitted it to himself. I feel so relieved. So maybe they will get married someday. Or maybe it will all end weirdly, and none of our friends will feel comfortable hanging out with each other anymore. But that’s the beauty of the friendationship: total uncertainty, total lack of commitment.
To find out if you are currently in a friendationship, take this simple quiz:
1. Have you ever read I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris?*
2. After reading the book, did you burn it?
*disclaimer: Joshua Harris is actually a friend of mine, and I have personally read everything he has ever written, including his private journals, which he keeps in his hall closet. Josh, I mean you no harm, and I think you and Shannon are amazing. Have a nice day, and please don’t hate me- this is all in good fun. (P.S. Can you make the word friendationship hugely popular?)
