dropping the ball

[chestnutcurls]

To me, New Year's Eve is the most stressful night of the entire year. You never know who's having the party. You wonder if you should have a party. Then, at the last minute when you have made other plans, one of your friends decides to have a party. So you rearrange your plans, causing hurt feelings and stress all around. This year, I made the biggest mistake of all by making plans with my parents; Evan and I were going to go over to the house and eat fried turkey with them. I knew something else would come up because of this. Sure enough, Myla called me an hour ago to tell me that she and Luke are having a party. I called Evan in a panic, and he reasonably suggested that we go to the house and eat and hang out a while, then go to Luke and Myla's. To a normal person, this seems like a good plan, but we're talking about my parents and I know their feelings will be hurt. And I feel bad.

New Year's Eve also depresses me because it is the anniversary of my singleness, and every year I feel like I haven't made any progress, because of that. I may have become an independent woman and grown in grace, but everything seems the same on New Year's Eve because another year has gone by and I'm no closer to being married. This is silly. Also, being a girl, I dream that my evening will end like the end of When Harry Met Sally, although I know that it will not. :)

End of whining. I will talk about more normal things in a minute.

Comments

[lifeofpatrick.livejournal.com]

I understand your post totally. I will probally end up staying in and reading or somthing. I looked for places to go but parties at the bars/clubs do not hold my attention long (there is one that stated "Dare to share you flesh with erotic artists painting full tops and spot designs on bodys all night long) I decided to pass on that one also. So in turn I will ring in the Central Time Zone with Conan O'Brien (he better be live)even thought I'm in the eastern. And on the topic of singleness you could look at this is a start of a new year with new opertunies to find the right guy (my case girl). one of my new years resolution will be to go on at least 6 dates this upcoming year. since over the last two years that number was 0.

[salemgirl.livejournal.com]

Wow... Amazing how much we have in common today. New Years is stressful for me as well. My friends always want to have a drunken greeting to the new year. I personally prefer maybe one cocktail and a quiet evening.

New Years Eve is also the anniversary of meeting Phillip. Double whammy. It's also the week before the wedding date. Triple whammy. I'm anxious about New Years Eve.

And I of course relate to the whole When Harry Met Sally thing. But it never happens. And then I think I'm just going to be a haggard old crotchety single woman that children are afraid of...

Maybe I'm being melodramatic.

Ok, the point is... I don't think you're being silly. I think you're being honest.

[chestnutcurls.livejournal.com]

:)

Thanks. I'll be thinking of you.

Hey, we can make a pact. In about 10 years, if neither of us is married, we can be crotchety, scary old ladies together. :)

[salemgirl.livejournal.com]

Rock! It's a deal!

[greenhornet.livejournal.com]

in order to be crotchety old ladies you have to have one of these,
a.) an annoying little dog that you worship and call by some affectionate little name like pugsy-wugsy. It is important to dress like liz taylor or Zsa Zsa Gabor if this is the old lady path that you choose. or-

b.)more than two cats. Three cats make you one of those weird cat ladies that come into the grocery store. they have that ammonia smell ( you know what I mean.) and are covered with cat hair. or-

c.) an urgent desire to feed the birds in your local park. it is necessary to dress frumpily to feed them, because buying birdseed and day old bread is much more important than buying clothes for oneself.

[radiojedi.livejournal.com]

NY eve seems to usually be a frustrating time--because plans don't always seem to come together until the last minute and then you have to choose and feelings get hurt.

And I understand what you mean about the new year being depressive--though I'm no longer single--I still see ways I haven't changed, but wanted to, things I haven't done, but should have....etc etc

[markis97.livejournal.com]

Well having more then one party to attend can be fun. Hopefully your parents will understand, it's not like you're blowing them off completely.

As for singleness, I wouldn't worry so much about it. Though New Years and Valentines Day sometimes feel like the two holidays that make you feel the most single, there's nothing wrong with it. You're young yet, even if you sometimes feel old :) As long as you have accomplished something over the last year, then it is not a waste. So don't feel just because you're not any closer to being married that the year was a waste. Look at what you did accomplish not what you didn't yet :

[nikichick4.livejournal.com]

I love what he says to her in When Harry Met Sally...it's soo cute!

[nova-wylde.livejournal.com]

I can relate about being single, and it can be depressing pretty much any time of the year. But in a way I'm okay with being single, but that's just cuz I'm not even thinking about marriage, but I am wanting to find a significant other though.

I never saw all of When Harry Met Sally, but from the sound of things, I assume it had a happy ending?